Back in History – Alchemy

guess we all heard about Paulo Coelho’s book “The Alchemist” or about the anime “Full metal alchemist”, even in Harry Potter, there was a whole volume about the Philosopher’s

Stone, the stone that can bring people back to life and transform everything in gold. But what is the truth behind those stories? What is Alchemy in fact and what was its purpose? I want to make a series of articles about it and it’s symbols.

Alchemy always had a dual nature: one involving the use of chemical substances and being the precursor of modern chemistry; in the same time, alchemy has been associated with the esoteric, spiritual beliefs.

Where did Alchemy appeared?

Many associate Alchemy with European Middle Ages, but it’s much older than we think: it was practiced in Mesopotamia, Ancient Egypt, Persia, India, Japan, Korea and China, in Classical Greece and Rome, in the Muslim civilizations, and then in Europe up to the 19th century, lasting at least 2,500 years.

What Alchemy means?

In the history of science, alchemy was both an early form of the investigation of nature and an early philosophical and spiritual discipline, combining elements of chemistry, metallurgy, physics, medicine, astrology, semiotics, mysticism, spiritualism, and art all as parts of one greater force.

Alchemy is an ancient path of spiritual purification and transformation, it is full of mysticism and mystery. It presents to the initiate a system of eternal, dreamlike, esoteric symbols that have the power to alter consciousness and connect the human soul to the Divine.

It dates to ancient Egypt, where it developed in an early form of chemistry and metallurgy. Egyptians alchemists used their art to make alloys, dyes, perfumes and cosmetic jewelry, and to embalm the dead.

The early Arabs  also made significant contributions to alchemy by emphasizing the mysticism of numbers (quantities and lengths of time for processes). The Arabs also gave us the term ‘alchemy’, from the Arabic term ‘alchimia‘ that  means ‘the Egyptian art’.

During medieval and Renaissance times it functioned on two levels: mundane and spiritual. On mundane level, alchemists tried to find a physical process to convert base metals such as lead into gold. On the spiritual level, alchemists worked to purify themselves by eliminating the “base” material of the self and achieving the ‘gold’ of enlightenment. In those times, many alchemists believed that the spiritual purification was necessary in order to achieve the mundane transformations of metals.

Alchemy is a speculative thought that tried to transform base metals such as lead or copper into silver or gold and, most important,  to discover a cure for disease and immortality.

Alchemy was the name given in Latin Europe in the 12th century, similar to astrology and attempting to discover the relationship of man to the cosmos and to use that relationship to his benefit.

Between nature and dreams..

The key word characterizing alchemy is “Transmutation” and it refers to many  things:  chemical, physiological changes like health, transformation from old to youth or passing from an earthly to supernatural existence. Alchemical changes were always positive, never involving degradation. Alchemists aimed at wealth, longevity, and immortality.

Alchemy was not original in seeking these goals, for it had been preceded by religion, medicine, and metallurgy. The first chemists were metallurgists and their theories came from folklore and religion.  Systems of five almost identical basic elements were postulated in China, India, and Greece, according to a view in which nature comprised antagonistic, opposite forces – hot and cold, positive and negative, and male and female.

That’s all for now, hope you enjoy it! If you enjoyed it, please like and share! Thank you!

 

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Witches – Between Myth and Reality

A witch is defined as a person who practices witchcraft. The stereotypical witches are commonly portrayed as wicked old women who have wrinkled skin, pimples, and pointy hats. They wear clothes that are black or purple. They also have warts on their noses and sometimes long claw-like fingernails.

But first of all, what witchcraft means?  Is witchcraft evil?

Witchcraft is not evil. It is a religion and way of life. It is the craft with only the utmost respect for Mother Nature. They may possess supernatural abilities and can perform rituals that are out of the ordinary but they are not what the society pictures them to be.  They don’t do evil things. They just venerate Mother Nature like pagans gone in the old times. They also have normal appearance, not as they are pictured in the movies.

Now that we defined both terms, I would like to go back in history to see why they are consider evil (for no reason)

In the Bible, the punishment for witchcraft is death (Exodus 22:18, “Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live,” meaning “you should not let a witch live”). “Witch” in the Bible means summoner of spirits, so it might really mean warlock.

In Europe in the early modern period, persecution of witches (witch hunts and witchcraft trials) took place. Many Christians were scared of witches and witchcraft at that time. As a result, tens or hundreds of thousands of people were tried for witchcraft, and executed.. just for having a black cat for example or because neighbours suspected that something mysterious is happening.  Most of them were women, though in some places the majority were men. Most were hanged. Some were burned at the stake (tied to a long pole and burned alive). Especially in the early modern period, this punishment was often applied.

The Salem trials were among these trials. Gilles Corey was one of the people accused of witchcraft. Because he knew that he had done no wrong, Corey simply refused to speak. He was pressed to death.

Among those punished were people who did not live peacefully with their rulers, like Joan of Arc. Queen Anne Boleyn was accused of being a witch and was said to have had a large mole on her neck and a sixth finger, though this was likely invented by her enemies.

There were some men (for example, Johann Weyer, Friedrich Spee and Anton Praetorius) who protested against torture and against the chase of witches.

The mark of devil

People believed that witches had a pact with the devil. The diabolical mark (or mark of the devil) was a token left on the skin of the witch.

Most of the time, this was believed to be a mole or birthmark. It was said that since this was a sign of the devil, touching (or picking) it would not hurt the person. People also thought that this mark could not bleed.

This soon developed into a safe test for witchcraft. Most often, special techniques were used by those doing the test, so that the pricked spot would not bleed, or hurt. This was done using a needle like object called a bodkin. When touching the skin, the needle would go into its shaft. In that way it could not be felt, and did of course not bleed. Many innocent people were wrongfully convicted because of this test.

As you see, the world was not fair and people were accused and executed for no reason. Fortunately, Middle Ages ended after long years of useless torture, injustice and lots of murders.

Myths about witches

During the early Modern Age, people developed a whole set of teachings and beliefs about witches. These beliefs were centered around the following:

  1. Witches were able to fly around on broomsticks… The believe that they can fly on broomsticks came actually from a drug that they put on sticks and masturbate with it to have different visions. Interesting, isn’t it?
  2. Witches meet with other witches, and with the devil on occasions called witches’ sabbath.
  3. Witches have a pact with the devil
  4. Witches can use spells and black magic, also known as ‘Juju’ in some parts of Africa to do bad things to others

Nowadays…

In the 20th century, a new attempt has been made at understanding witchcraft. Many people say that witches were in fact wise women who were hunted down by the church (mostly for their knowledge of herbs to treat certain diseases). This has led to a new movement. Some of it is known as wicca or shamanism.

Thant is all for the moment because Wicca it’s a very complex subject and it deserves and article dedicated exclusively to it.

Until then, hope you enjoy it it. If you like it, press the share button!

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10 Cursed Objects That Actually EXIST!

People have always been attracted to the weird and the occult. There’s just something about scary stories that attracts people. And most scary stories are fiction, so people take confort in the idea that the things within the story never existed.

But what happens when they actually did?

Well, not all horror stories are based in fiction and some of the objects that make those stories so scary actually EXIST in our world today. While it might be tempting for many people to simply dismiss these objects as the work of superstition, the documented circumstances surrounding those object are way too compelling to deny  that something more.. sinister might be at play.

So, here are 15 Terrifying cursed object that actually exist.

10. Maori Warrior Masks

 

The Maori warriors lived long ago in New Zeeland and used to carve out masks and statues before heading into battle. According to the Maori belief system, any man who died in battle would live his soul behind one of the masks.Oddly, although the masks seem to pose no threat to men, it was find that over time women that were pregnant that came close to the masks, suffered complications. Several exist Museum of New Zeeland today, but are displayed with a warning that women that are expecting child should not come close to the masks for their own safety and the safety of the child. It was never explained why the perceived curse only seem to affect pregnant women, but is best not to take it only as a superstition because it not worth the risk.

 

9. Myrtles Plantation Mirror

 

Myrtles Plantation is one of the most haunted places in the world and perhaps the most haunted object on the premises is a mirror that was added to the home in 1980. Legend claims that the mirror contains the spirits of Sarah Woodruff and her children, who were poisoned to death on the premises. Guests of the plantation have reported figures lurking in the mirror and child-size hand prints on the glass. But mirrors have always been the subject of the supernatural and have been known to harbor evil spirits, so feel free to remember that next time you walk by one in the middle of the night.

8. Busby’s Stoop Chair

This notorious chair once belong to convicted murderer Thomas Busby. Before he was hanged for his crimes, his final request was to have a meal at his favorite local pub. Upon finishing his meal, he stood and proclaimed: “May sudden death come to everyone dares to sit in my chair!”. Since then 63 people that sat at that chair met their untimely deaths, some mere moments after siting in it. When the number of deaths became too coincidental, the pub owner donate the chair to  the Thrisk Museum in UK in 1972. The chair is still there today where is hung 1.5 meters off of the ground to prevent any further coincidences.

7. The Hope Diamond

The Hope Diamond is the most famous cursed diamond in the world. This 45.5 carat diamond was formed in the earth 1.1 billion tears ago and since his discovery it has been owned by several notable people, including a few kings. As it’s passed from owner to owner, country to country, the diamond has been known to be plagued with a curse  that cause great misfortune to the one who posses it. Those who have owned it have suffered disgrace, divorce, suicide, imprisonment, torture and financial ruin. It currently is in the Smithsonian Natural History Museum  in Washington DC  where it’s observable by the public. The diamond is never loaned out for any reason given his value of 250 million dollars and also so that it can never harm other living persons.

6. The Besano Vase

The Besano vase was made from carved silver in the 15th century by an Italian maiden on that very night. That very same night she was found murdered, cluching the vase. after her death, the vase was passed on from family member to family member with each dying an untimely death until, eventually, the vase was hidden away. Unfortunately, the vase was discovered again in 1988, with a nothe that read: “Beware, this vase brings death!”. The chain of deaths continued with each new owner, claiming more and more lives. It was even offered to multiple museums, each refusing to take it because of the perceived curse on it. It’s unclear where it is now, but is believed to be buried in a lead coffin somewhere that is not accessible, at least for the living..

5. The Dybbuk box

In 2001, a man named Kevin Mannis purchased a wine cabinet and immediatly started having terrible nightmares, as did the people around him. He decided to give away the cabinet to his mother who had a stroke the same day she received it. Each owner had horrible events upon coming in the possession of the cabinet. Its last owner, Jason Haxson developed a strange skin disease among other medical conditions. Thw origins of the box were traced back to a Holocaust survivor and its believed to be possessed by a Dybbuk, an evil spirit of Jewish mythology. Upon learning this, Haxson , with the help of local Rabbis, decided to hide the box from the rest of the world. But the legend still lives and it was inspiration for the 2012 movie “The Possession”

4. Anna Baker’s Wedding dress

In the mid 1800s, a young girl named Anna Baker, who came from a wealthy family, fell in love with a low-class iron worker. They plan the wedding and she even bought a dress, but when her father discover the relationship, he forbid the wedding. From that point on she refused to marry anyone else and spent the rest of her life alone, bitter and angry until her death in 1914. That wedding dress was since been put on display in her old bedroom in The Baker mansion. It’s often observed moving by itself which could be attributed to a draft or something, except the fact that it’s in a airtight glass case. Some believe that is Anna’s spirit inhabiting the dress dancing her wedding dance that she never had while she was living.

3. The Crying Boy Painting

“The Crying Boy” was created by Italian artist Giovanni Bragolin in the 1950s and quickly became famous.. or should I say infamous. Over the years, the painting became very popular and thus, mass produced and was hung in many homes across UK. However, it soon became highly reported that many of this homes began mysteriously catching fire with many of them burning to the ground. The most disturbing thing is that in many of those homes, the painting of the crying boy was discovered untouched by the raging flames. Now some attribute these fires to pure coincidence , but the undamaged paintings have yet to be explained. I think the real mystery is why so many people wanted a pictures of a crying boy in their homes.

2. The Hands  Resist Him Painting

Painted by artist Bill Stoneham, “The Hands Resist Him” is considered worlds most haunted  pieces of art.  Each owner passed on a similar warning to the next potential buyer which is that when the night comes, the figures within the painting either move or disapear entirely. Many people that have simply viewed the painting had complained about immediately feeling sick or weak. According to the artist, the doorway represents a threshold between this world and another. The most striking coincidence documented is that the owner of the first gallery to ever show the painting and the art critic that review it both died between one year of first seeing it. And I don’t know if looking at the copies have same effects or not, but if it does…oops, sorry!

1. Annabelle, the doll

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Annabelle was originally discovered in an antic shop in 1970. After being purchased as a gift, from a mother, to her daughter, Donna, strange things occurred. Upon receiving it and bring it home, she noticed that, over time, the doll would appear in other rooms that she did not put it.  In addition, little notes begin appearing around her appartment, randomly and fresh droplets of blood would appear on dolls dress. As the unexplained phenomenon increased, the girl finally contacted renowned psychic investigators, Ed and Lorraine Warren, who determined that the doll was possessed by a demon. The doll was given to the Warrens who put it in a glass cabinet whre reamins to this day in their occult museum in Conneticut. The sign of the glass reads: “Warning! positively do not open!”

Hope my top scared you enough to give a like and share. Just kidding! :)) Hope you enjoyed it! Please subscribe and share. And for critics and suggestions, please leave comments. Thank you!

 

 

 

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Gothic People – Between Myth and Reality

Some people said Goths are crazy, evil persons. But is that true?  What is Goth in fact?

“We’re hard-core romantics, dreamy realists and cynical idealists. We find beauty in the macabre, while seeking fairness and tenderness in our daily lives. We love all things ancient, while being modern and liberal in our social outlook. We’re intelligent and creative without being cutthroat and competitive. We’re angry yet peaceful. We’re sure of ourselves but wary of strangers. We’re funny but bitter … but mostly very shy.”Rebecca Schraffenberger from the book – Goth: Undead Subculture 

A Goth is someone who finds beauty in things others consider dark. They love all that is dark and mysterious. That doesn’t mean Goths are evil, it just means they have a different perspective to many. And it also doesn’t mean Goths are unkind, violent or lacking in humour, in fact quite the opposite is true. Goths love to laugh but their humour is more of the black comedy sort. They aren’t sad because they like dark things – dark things make them happy and inspire them. Goths are often intellent, romantic and artistic realists. Being Goth is not about how one dresses, is about who you are.

Goths don’t always wear black and don’t all listen to the same bands. They do not worship Satan and aren’t members of a cult. For example, old women made crosses when see me dressed in black. Also, I don’t consider that black is the color of evil or that it brings negative energies. Black is the most elegant color, an ageless color.

Goths can be found around the globe and come from many different backgrounds and ethnicities. The Goth culture is very big in Japan and Germany.

Goths all have one thing in common… they find beauty in what others consider dark. For example, I have always found dead trees beautiful, I always loved the mystery of the night. I always loved the dark music that I only heard in movie soundtracks as a child. Goth to me isn’t something that one becomes but something one is.

Goth is not a phase. It is something that you either are or aren’t. I don’t understand people who say “Oh, I used to be Goth.” One doesn’t just change their likes and dislikes over night. I certainly have never changed who I fundamentally am.

In general Goth people love mythology, the mysterious, the supernatural, culture, tradition, romanticism and basically hold on to things in society that they feel are important and dying out. Once in the long, long ago people used to really make an effort and take pride in everything, their clothing, make-up, objects…everything was beautifully crafted and done with pride and care. Goth people value the past, the beauty of those eras.

They are influenced by fashion, music and mythology from the pre-Medieval eras to the Edwardian eras and also by various cultures around the world. Goth people are generally creative and of high intellect…some might go so far as to say they were a bit geeky as many Goths I know work in IT. They are often not as interested in drugs as many other sub-cultures.

So next time when you see a Goth, think twice about him/her and underestimate him/her.

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Deadpool movie review

One of the most wanted movies of the year was recently launched. As you know, it is Deadpool. What is the first word that comes into your mind when you heard about Deadpool? MADNESS!!! The whole movie was a madness in the best sens of the word: nonsense violence, nudity, dirty vocabulary.. and of course lot of funny situations.

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The movie tells the story of how Wade Winston Wilson became the antihero Deadpool. Wide is a sexy, talkative and narcissistic guy,  an ex-soldier who became mercenary, one of the well-known mercenaries. He also has a girlfriend,  Vanessa Carlysle, a prostitute at a nightclub.

All were good in Wade’s life until he finds out that he has cancer in terminal stage. Vanessa is tries to find all the hospital that could cure him of cancer, but he refuse, until is “recruited” by a “man in black” who pretends not only to cure his cancer, but give him superhuman powers too. He decide to give a chance to this operation which proved to be a continue torture. This torture activates his supernatural powers… His cancer spread through all his body and loses his beautiful face and body, but he became immortal. Wade is ashamed of his look and he’s affraid to vist Vanessa because of it. Now his purpose is to get back his Playboy look and to visit Vanessa after that.

The doctor who give Wade immortality, Francis Freeman a.k.a.”Ajax” proved to be a weapon genius and very sadist pretending that he could bring back the beautiful face to Wade, even thou he knew it was impossible. After a long chain of crimes, Wade, who became Deadpool already, finds Francis and they start a pointless fight. Deadpool is helped by 2 X-men members: Collossus and Negasonic Teenage Warhead (her power is fire). This battle is full of funny moments, like all the movie, “breaking the forth wall”, etc. I let you see the movie and find out the interesting moments and the end of the fight 😉

I recommend this movie for every Deadpool fan and for everyone who wants to see a good comedy/action movie! I love it and hope to see it more often! The good point is that the movie is uncensored so you can see it in all its beauty! Enjoy it! 🙂

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Gala Stories (the FB game) Review

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Hello, everybody!

I choose Gala Stories game because I play it for over a year and I really like it and I play it daily. So let’s start the review! 😉

First, it started like a common fashion game: customizing character, change and buy new clothes, change make-up, hairstyle, etc. I thought that will be all, but the game proved full of surprises!

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The Closet

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Beauty

It turned into a real beautiful story: I started have a rival fashion designer who I had to defeat, I had to go to Asia to meet the phantom of my grandmother for creating an extraordinary dress, I also met Santa Clause, Grinch, witches, pirates, fairies and many other extraordinary characters. That’s the reason why I like this game. It always surprises me!

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Meet Hilaria’s ghost, the malefic queen!

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Zaigon

Also, I like that I can custom my character when I want and I can choose from a huge variety of clothes, accessories, pets, etc. Those are the positive parts of it 🙂

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My store and stocks

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Multitask mission for unlocking new locations

The only thing that I don’t like is that in Closet, you have a recycle bin button, it’s hard to see and you can click it by mistake. The problem is that you can’t restore the clothes from recycle bin. You can use it even if they are in recycle bin, but you can’t restore them from there.

So, if you wanna play it, check GalaStories link:

https://www.facebook.com/GalaStories

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Pshychology of Love (part II)

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As I promised, here it comes the second part of the Pshychology of Love. We will discuss now about the chances to fall in love with someone or someone to fall in love with you 😉

There are 7 variables devided in 2 categories: The big 3 and The more interesting 4. So, let’s start!

The BIG 3:

1. All other things being equal. It’s an interesting thing in here because you can actually measure (in meters/feet, etc) with who it’s the great possibility to fall in love with. Example: the doors in the student dorm are very close one to another, so the possiblity of a future relationship is bigger there comparing to…let’s say, the sky-scrapers, where distance is big.

2. Similarity. People more similar have more possibilities to fall in love. So if you both like the same music  gender, enjoy same movies, have the same religion, same political view, same point of view about homosexuality, etc., you have more chances to fall in love with that person.

Very important!!! Opposites don’t really attract!!! So if you have nothing in common with you partner, it’s very probable that your relationship won’t work very well.

3. Familiarity. The more you know that person, the more likely is to fall in love with he/she. For example, if you make eye contact with a random girl on the street once, twice or whatever, it doesn’t mean she likes you. She wants to see who is coming. That’s all. But if you see that girl more days in a row, maybe you will start talking, so you became more familiar to her. The chances of a relationship grow.

The More Interesting 4:

1. Confidence. We are attracted to people who are competent, but not very competent because we consider them superior to us and that’s not good for a future relationship.

2. Physical attractiveness. Even if nobody wants to admit, this is the most important factor of a relationship. If you don’t like that person, you definitely don’t want a relationship with her. The truth is that we care more about what an attractive person said.

3. Gain/ Loss. Here is an interesting thing: the haters can’t hurt you anymore because you know their attitude won’t change, also, we don’t appreciate too much the persons who are always positive (like saying “I love you! I love you!” all day long). We prefer what’s called “the game effect“: the person who doesn’t appreciate you from the start, but she appreciates you after a period of time.

3. Mistake understood as love. I consider this the most interesting one. For example if your ate wants decaffeinated, but, by mistake, she gets normal coffee. The caffeine makes the heartbeat to increase and it can  be understand as love.

Fear can be also understood as love. Take your date to a horror movie or go near a cemetery. The heartbeats increase again because of the fear an it can be understood as love.

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Domestic violence. you stay in an abusive relationship either because economically there’s no other solution or because of misunderstood love (“He won’t yell/ beat me if he won’t love me!”)

Hope this things will help you. This series will continue because it’s a very complex subject. Hope you will enjoy it!  Also, if you have questions, please ask. If you like it, share it!

If you missed the first part of the article, here it is:

https://alex4now.wordpress.com/2016/01/09/the-psychology-of-love-part-i/

 

Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZoBgX8rScg

 

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Art of Amina Benfares

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A few days ago I met Amina Benfares, a very talented 23 years old student. I was impressed by her creations because the anime’s seems to get alive from her drawings.

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She started drawing since 2015, after giving up 3 years. Now she enjoys drawing fanart and manga and she hope that her drawings will inspire others to pursue their dreams and continue:  “Please don t give up! You will improve with time!”

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If you wanna see more of Amina’s works, access her Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nainaioo00/

 

 

 

 

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The Psychology of Love that will change your life

A lot of my friends asked me recently how can they find their match, their soulmate? So I searched the internet for an answer and  I found some interesting articles that seem relevant to me.I think you will also be interested to know about them because they are some tips that you can use them for yourself.

But first we have to find out what is love from a psychological view:

Love is defined as being composed from 3 essential things: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. If you have those 3 essential elements, you have real love. Seems simple enough.. but let’s see what each of them means.

Intimacy is the connection you have with the other person, you can tell secrets, you can be sincere with that person.

Passion is the physical attraction between two persons.

Commitment is the decision of love, the fact that you want to have a relationship with that person for a certain period of time.

Why is important to have all those 3 elements in your relationship?

Because having only Intimacy means liking each other, telling secrets. In one word, friendship… Or, for some, the eternal friend zone. You don’t want to have physical attraction with that person, you son’t have the commitment to stay a long time in a relationship with that person.

Having only Passion is infatuation, love t the first side. You are very attracted to that person only physically because he/she looks awesome and all that you want is some “bang-bang”. You don’t want to share secrets, nor want to maintain that relationship. When the physical attraction fades, all is gone. Relationship is over.

Having only Commitment is also called empty love. You don’t share secrets with that person and there’s no physical attraction, but you really wanna stay with that person. This is usually the final stage of a long time relationship/marriage. This is also happening in the arranged marriage. The partners never saw each other so there’s no intimacy, nor physical attraction because they see each other only in the church or where they made the commitment.

Why having only 2 of 3 is not true love?

When you have Intimacy and Passion, it’s romantic love, like Romeo and Juliet for example. They shared secrets, there was physical attraction, but there was no commitment. You all know how that relationship ended.

If there is are Intimacy and Commitment, this is friend zone. You share secrets, want to continue the friendship, but if there’s no Passion, you will remain forever the best friend.

Having Passion and Commitment is like a soap: you are physical attraction to him/her and you want to maintain the relationship. But there’s no Intimacy so you can have the surprise that that person will cheat, than come back to you because there is no trust.

When you have all 3 elements: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment, you have true love. You trust that person, you are physically attract to her and you have Commitment to maintain the relationship as long as you can.

I will talk more on this subject because a lot of things remain uncovered, so we will discover them in the second part of this article. Hope you enjoyed it!

Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZoBgX8rScg

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Juvenoia, every generations problem

 

 

The problem with youth today, some may say, is that they are too impulsive, too violent, too needy and thinks that it’s entitled to everything. But is this really the truth?

This fear, paranoia, that old people have for the young it is best described by a term introduced by sociologist David Finkelhor and it is called Juvenoia and it affects every generation, not just this one.

Last generation had the same opinion  as this generation for example: music today it’s viewed as being too provocative, but this was the same case that the old generation. They thought about Elvis Presley with his erotic dance moves or Rolling Stones with their rebel lifestyle or KISS with their noisy song and weird make-up.

Every generation thinks that they are not so conservative as the old generation, but not that provocative as the young generation. Its called the “Goldilocks Effect”, my generation is perfect the others are wrong.

As a consequence of this effect, the young generation is being forced to walk on a path already created in stead of creating its own. How can we get rid of old and destructive habits if we impose them on the new generation?

But the old people should just relax and stop fearing todays youth. Not the teens are the problem, but the leans throw which we see the world is the problem. Let the young generation find their way. Continue reading

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